Taking it day by day: Random thoughts: 1



Random thoughts: 1

Case of a woman…
Ever since you discovered sex, your main aim was to enjoy it to the fullest without getting pregnant bila plan (among other things) so you religiously took the pill/used condoms/had a coil inserted etc. When your period delayed – just 2-3 days you would panic and start hitting the replay button to see whether there was any one time you might have forgotten to protect. You review your whole lifestyle; maybe it’s the stress, change of diet, illness, change of climate etc.

The time then comes when you want a baby, you drop the pill, throw them condoms away, say goodbye coil welcome to the raw world! You invest in sexy lingerie, invest in folic acid pills, multivitamin pills and drop all your nasty habits such as smoking, drinking alcohol, and you start eating healthy meals, cut down on salt and all the fat. You approach baby-making like it’s a whole new art, the in-thing (kama sutra is just a beginner's guide to you).
Months turn to a year or two or more - nothing happens. Alarmed, you eventually go to the gynaecologist and you hear the sad words “Nanii, you are incapable of having a child because of blah and blahblah…”

What do you feel at that moment - well, apart from the obvious devastation? Do you think of the money you wasted back then trying to keep conception at bay? Do you feel cheated by nature coz all along you ‘assumed’ you were capable of bearing offspring? Is it better to go for a fertility test now and save yourself the agony later? Or is it better to deal with the fact that you are infertile later?
Just thinking.
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23 Comments:

At February 21, 2007 6:41 PM, Blogger Princess said...

That would suck!!

 
At February 21, 2007 7:15 PM, Blogger chidi said...

i know....it wld really suck

 
At February 21, 2007 10:42 PM, Blogger 3N said...

ati folic acid pills, i am totally lost...anyway am sure the lady would be mostly devastated coz they can't give birth.
with aids and std's am sure no one would ever regret using protection

 
At February 22, 2007 12:05 AM, Blogger Rethabile said...

Interesting mono-debate. I like the idea of finding out asap and saving money, and possibly, heartbreak. Cheers

 
At February 22, 2007 2:36 AM, Blogger nahjaj said...

damn...my mind is running around in circles now. the thought of not being able to have children is definitely devasting to me. i would surely die. as for checking to find out wheter u r fertile or not that sounds like a good idea. then u can have fun without the stress of contraceptives. but what if they r wrong and u do get pregnant...hmmm...so much to think about...

 
At February 22, 2007 9:30 AM, Blogger Chatterly said...

@Princess-so true
@Chidi-thanks for stopping by
@3n-no one will regret using a condom to avoid STDs but using the pill to avoid getting pregnant when you later come to find out you cant?
@rethabile-if you find out asap, wouldnt you feel miserable for a loooong time? or maybe even regret finding out so soon?
@nahjaj-the thought of not being able to give birth would also kill me.if you find out you are incapable of getting preggies would you still have fun when having sex?if the diagnosis was wrong...hmmm

 
At February 22, 2007 10:25 PM, Blogger Ichiena said...

yaani - i have been trying to comment for over an hour!!! So, now a summarised version -

This would be terrible. One of my biggest fears too - dont know why. I just imagine i'll not be able to have kids one day.

 
At February 23, 2007 5:14 AM, Blogger Majonzi said...

that is my biggest nightmare... and it doesn't help that I have gyn issues... . :(

 
At February 23, 2007 9:44 AM, Blogger Chatterly said...

Ichiena + Majonzi-I am pretty sure that is everyone's nightmare-ínfertility. I think I would be bitter a whole lifetime if it came out that way :-( but then, it is God who gives, or gives not.

 
At February 23, 2007 11:59 AM, Blogger Aegeus said...

For those who dont wish to procreate its all good, but then again those that crave it so get no relief. Irony of life right there. Go for fertility testing and keep naHuKos (Ichiena 07) in good health and condition and relief shall be yours.

 
At February 23, 2007 12:23 PM, Blogger Prousette said...

Being declared infertile would be devastating but then who thinks of that when the aim is mostly to avoid having a young un' too early? Then when you make the discovery it is too late to do anything about it.

No tests for me thanks. You cross the bridge when you come to it.

 
At February 23, 2007 3:16 PM, Blogger bantutu said...

You're thinking Edgar Allan Poe-ish...Scary stuff...Pity lakini...
Na venye umejimudu alafu unaskia hujamudika?! Suckalicious!!

 
At February 23, 2007 4:07 PM, Blogger Klara said...

Am going 4 one NOW!!!

 
At February 23, 2007 5:37 PM, Blogger bomseh said...

the ones who will regret more are not the ones who used contraceptives; but the ones who aborted. majuto ni mjukuu.

 
At February 23, 2007 7:41 PM, Blogger Chatterly said...

@ aegeus – Just like you said - irony of life.
@ prousette – Maybe I am thinking about fertility coz its no longer ‘too early' for me to start procreating. Crossing bridges when you reach them? Hmm I don’t know…maybe I would like to know how rickety that bridge is so that I can know what to expect?
@ bantutu – it sure is scary stuff….and it would really suck if….
@Klara – ebu wait for me…I escort you to the gyna 
@bomseh – abortion is not an option for me. The fact that I can get preggies in the first place will be something to be thankful for.

 
At February 26, 2007 9:34 AM, Blogger Unyc said...

GOODNESS NO!! Evrything i do now is for my kids...then am told i cant get one..i'd die 4 sure. Its only that am in skul i'd get paged now!!

 
At February 26, 2007 3:34 PM, Blogger Chatterly said...

@ unyc - That would devastate me too.

 
At March 07, 2007 2:15 PM, Blogger egm said...

Nahjaj's comment reminds me of a friend who was told by her gyn that she can't get pregnant. Next thing you know, she's expecting a baby. She switched doctors right away.

 
At March 14, 2007 8:18 AM, Blogger Girl next door said...

It would be very ironic and tragic.
But I think it's better to be safe than give birth to a kid you can't take care of and provide for.

@3n,
The folic acid is recommended for all women of child-bearing age--lack of it can lead to a retarded/ underdeveloped baby. It should actually be taken years before one plans to get pregnant.

 
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