Taking it day by day: Tag along

Taking it day by day

Tag along

Every now and then you hear a man complain about how he invited a girl to a date and she came with her pals who would just sit there, eat and giggle. I have a different story to tell. I have been invited to dates by 3 different men and they all had a buddy tagging along :-(

This is a very weird situation because at a certain point you even forget you are on a date...you just feel like you are out with some friends. There is no way you can talk serious stuff coz of Bob over there who is listening attentively too! And you can't ignore him coz he is actively participating in the conversation, damn. It is even worse when Bob is cuter than the guy who invited you to the date..LOL!!!

What happened to the good old *date for two*? Where you would sit close to each other and talk about anything and laugh about everything? And when things got better you would even hold hands and just enjoy the moment? Why does a grown man have to bring a bodyguard to his dates? What happened to *kila mtu ajitetee*? I am left wondering what this world is coming to.

This entry was posted on Wednesday, October 25, 2006 at 12:22 PM. You can skip to the end and leave a response.

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17 Comments:

At October 25, 2006 3:53 PM, Girl in the Meadow said...: Ooh don't i know this one. You are invited, huku you are thinking perfect time to bond. Dude has come with boys. But i hear its for the purposes of the boys to make a statement. like if they penda you or not, to say you are fly blah blah. Jamaaz can be bad.

But i guess once the statement is made, they can proceed to stage two, kivyake yaani
At October 25, 2006 4:38 PM, Juju said...: For him, it was because he said I intimidated him. So the first few dates had to be with the boys.
At October 25, 2006 6:32 PM, eddiie said...: Oooh!! that is owful..very owful.infact if one does that, be very sure that there are intentions behind that move.

Even on strange dates ,i mean dates where you have never seen your partner, it always doesn`t happen that way...

Atleast if there is a "bodyguard" that person will be just around that meeting place but no definately the same table..

what a scenario you went into.!!!
At October 25, 2006 6:47 PM, Princess said...: Although I have been subjected to double dates, I have never actually gone on a date where three was a crowd..so not cool!
At October 26, 2006 1:32 PM, Stunuh Jay said...: This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
At October 26, 2006 1:34 PM, Stunuh Jay said...: 1.32pm
Yah know! And then it's a case of should I start talking to both or ignore the 3rd wheel altogether, my cure is simple, start chatting up he's friend, after alll he must have brought he's friend for a reason. He's friend could turn out to be the best man ;)
At October 26, 2006 1:44 PM, Chatterly said...: Can't a man be a man and just come alone? Ati the boys have to be there so that they can give the go ahead? Am I going to date the boys or that one man?

If you find me intimidating and you still get the guts to ask me out then pick those guts and wear them when you come for a date with me.

And if i start chatting up the cuter friend what will the dude say? LOL! some people just spoil their own chances.
At October 28, 2006 7:19 AM, SisBigBones said...: Never had that problem before. I'm usually dying to meet the guy's friends, something that takes forever. Lakini, that's not cool. If the guy is not confident enough to show up alone, that's a little immature in my books. The friends tug-along is so high school.
At October 29, 2006 3:51 AM, kadinya said...: men complain about inviting a girl to a date and her showing up with her pals because of the financial complications. nothing else. if you bring your pals and they throw a rao no problem. problem is if they beba 6bob only ya orbit mbili. or orbit chewing gum na fegi moja. big ass problem.
At October 30, 2006 1:49 PM, Klara said...: That tagging along is a bad idea...Very bad! It spoils da meaning of a date in da first place..
At October 30, 2006 1:51 PM, Klara said...: Yeah, u are right, I have experienced it..and it's pathetic espec when it's da first date.
At October 31, 2006 8:37 PM, Chatterly said...: Kadinya that was hilarious...ati orbit mbili na fegi! Ata chick will just be left wondering which planet dudes are from.

It still puzzles me why a group turns up na date ni ya two pple :-( arrrgh ata kama ni harambee spirit eishhhh, too much!
At November 01, 2006 9:34 AM, gishungwa said...: i know wbout guys wanting a lady evaluated and given a score but shouldnt that be after the second date. For a first date i find that in bad taste so one of two things will happen either that will be the end or else he wants to be just friends. still there is no excuse
At November 08, 2006 10:36 PM, PROUD NYEUTHI said...: What is the world coming to? This one needs to declare himself. Are you just pals or is there more? Next time you see him begin the conversation with "Beste, tuheshimiane...."
At November 12, 2006 11:59 PM, Frugal African said...: Nothing new here it used to be a popular practice among the elite during old days.
Chaperone.
The brother had a common problem guys still face - Not sure how to control himself during the date - hence the need for 'back-up'... LOL

Where do I put my hands when we are dancing on our first date?
At December 07, 2006 3:38 AM, Acolyte said...: Maybe they were planning a 3some?
At December 07, 2006 7:59 AM, Girl next door said...: So guys are guilty of this too? It's disappointing when you want quality time with a guy. I know some guys who roll with their buddies everywhere, they even end up liking the same chics! You may end up connecting more with the buddy.